if you're on a fertility journey and you find yourself getting triggered on social media, or maybe you've completely stepped away from social media because it's just too much while you're also navigating this journey, then this episode is for you.
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Have you ever scrolled social media and seen something that triggered you and thought. That's total bs, or maybe you've even rolled your eyes at something I've posted on social media.
Well, here's the truth. That emotional reaction isn't random. It's also not something that is identifying for you. It's actually your body and soul sending you a message. And today I'm going to dive into emotions. Specifically those more negative emotions like fear, frustration, and anger. And I'm gonna unpack this with you so that you can come out of this episode and know how these emotions can be your compass on your fertility journey because there is so much that we can do with these emotions rather than just labeling ourselves as, oh, I'm frustrated by that, or, oh, I'm angry because of that, right? We're gonna move past that and we're gonna use these to help us work through our fertility journey. And in order to do this, I want to bring in Dr.
David Hawkins map of consciousness. At some point later today, I want you to google Dr. David Hawkin, map of Consciousness, what the map of consciousness is, is it's essentially a framework that shows emotions on a spectrum.
And what Dr. Hawkins work was, was to measure the frequency of emotions. It's pretty cool. So at the top of the scale are the feel good emotions like love, peace, confidence, compassion. On the lower end of the scale are the lower vibration emotions like shame, guilt, fear.
And we know this to be true in our body, when we experience emotions, the higher vibration emotions like love, feel good in our body. They are a higher vibration. And this is where we get the term like good vibes, right? They are a better vibration for us to feel the lower vibration emotions like fear, guilt.
Shame. All of those vibrate at a lower frequency energetically, and they feel worse in our body. And we have this experience in our biological body. Now, when you are feeling those heavy emotions, it's not that you are broken. It's not that you are negative, it's actually your body, your soul communicating with you that this is not aligned with your truth and this is not something we learn when we're children. We're told to stop crying, to stop being dramatic, at least I was not taught how to use these emotions as a tool, and instead I was taught to just stop having them. But if we were just supposed to stop having emotions, then why would our bodies be having emotions in the first place? I'm a firm believer that our bodies are super intuitive and these. Beautifully designed as systems. So what would the use of emotions be if we didn't need them, right? Or if we were supposed to stop having them.
Instead, I'm gonna give you a framework so that you can start using these emotions to your benefit. So lemme ground this down in an example for you. Say you're scrolling social media and you see somebody's baby announcement and you feel angry, or you feel jealousy. Right, a lower vibration emotion.
Instead of identifying with that, like, oh, I'm just a jealous person because that's likely not true for you. I want you to start getting curious about that emotion. What that reaction is actually telling you is that there is something not aligned in your world for that moment to happen. So it's coming out as jealousy because you want to be pregnant too.
You want to be the one celebrating your pregnancy because one more deeper layer is motherhood or parenthood is super important to you, and that is for you. That is what you desire in this life. Like that is your truth. Now, seeing somebody that has that is that. A reason to actually be angry? No. Is that a reason to actually experience a negative emotion?
No. The people on the other side of that post are likely super excited about their pregnancy, and that's why they're posting it. Right? And so the emotion of anger or jealousy isn't because you are a jealous person. It's because your body, your inner self is saying, this is something I want to, and this is very specific for the infertility conversation, but this applies across all parts of your life, right? Like you can apply this same framework to anything that's sparking negative emotions.
Say you get cut off on the freeway and somebody cuts in front of you and you get angry and you honk your horn, and in that moment it's that emotion is arising because your safety is compromised because somebody unsafely got in front of your car too quickly. Right? And so you're reacting with that so bringing it back to the fertility conversation, if you see me post on social media and I say something like, supporting your nervous system is the key to your fertility health and your gut reaction is, that sounds ridiculous, Jess, if it was just about my nervous system, then I'd be pregnant by now. I want you to pause.
This emotional reaction isn't wrong. It's an invitation. It's your body nudging you to look deeper. What if, instead of judging your emotions and identifying with the emotion, you started to read this like a map. Your emotions are not your enemies. They are actually messengers. They're a compass. And the next time you feel triggered, ask, what is this emotion trying to tell me? Now? Often on the fertility journey, the emotion is just a reminder that you do want to be a mom someday, or you do want to step into parenthood someday, right? And that that is for you and when I work with people and I'm supporting someone through their fertility journey, like with my one-on-one clients, we then take that one step further and ask, okay, if this is trying to tell me that yes, I wanna be a mom, what do we need to change?
What is not in alignment currently that will get me to that goal more quickly. And then, as you know, we work through all of the tools, whether it be body, mind, energy, we use all of the tools to get ourselves more in alignment so that that thing can come through for us. And if you are hearing this now, the first step in the process is to start questioning your emotions, to stop identifying with them and instead get curious, what is this trying to tell me?
And in the next episode, I'm going to tackle one of the most common emotions on this journey, which is jealousy. And it's oftentimes because of comparison. So stay tuned for that episode, and I am so grateful for you listening to the Her Fertility podcast. I would so appreciate you sharing this episode with a friend so that it can reach the people who need to hear it. Until next time, cheers to your fertility.
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