I know what it's like to want a baby so badly that trying to get pregnant starts taking over your life.
I spent two years trying to get pregnant.
I tracked every cycle. Went to the appointments. Changed my diet. Took the supplements. Tried acupuncture.
I researched. I questioned. I hoped. I prepared myself for disappointment.
I held it together in waiting rooms and cried in parking lots.
And somewhere along the way, I realized that infertility wasn't only happening in my doctor's office.
It was happening to me.
There was plenty of information about how to try to get pregnant. I couldn't find nearly enough support for the woman trying.
My husband and I eventually began the adoption process while continuing to navigate our fertility journey.
And yes, eventually I became pregnant.
But becoming a mother isn't the lesson I took from infertility.
What stayed with me was everything that happened before that.
How easily your body can start to feel like a project.
How every decision can suddenly feel impossibly important.
How difficult it is to stop thinking about fertility when you're waiting for something you want this deeply.
How hope and fear can exist at exactly the same time.
How lonely infertility can feel, even when you have people who love you and excellent medical care.
And how much of the experience happens after you've left the appointment and gone home.
That became the beginning of Her Fertility.
Because your fertility care shouldn't end when the appointment does.
Your doctor has an incredibly important job.
But your doctor isn't sitting beside you when your period starts.
They're not there at 10 p.m. when you're researching the same question for the fifth time.
They're not in the car after the appointment you're still trying to process.
They're not there when someone announces a pregnancy, when you and your partner are experiencing infertility completely differently, or when you're terrified to hope that this time might be different.
That's the space I became interested in.
Not replacing medical care.
Caring for the woman living through it.
Hi, I'm Jess.
I'm the founder of Her Fertility, and I've spent years studying fertility support from multiple directions because I've never believed that a woman should be reduced to one part of herself.
I am a Certified Fertility Doula, Reiki Master and holistic fertility support specialist, and I hold a Master's degree in Communication.
My work brings together practical fertility support with meditation, breathwork, somatic practices, nervous-system support, mindset, communication and energy work when that's something a woman wants to explore.
I've also presented fertility research at the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) and spoken internationally at the Innovine International Conference.
But perhaps the most important thing I've learned has come from sitting with women in the middle of infertility.
Listening.
Noticing the patterns underneath what they're saying.
Helping them sort through the noise when everything feels important.
Helping them prepare for the appointment, process what happened afterward, navigate the conversation with their partner, sit with the uncertainty, or simply stop trying to solve fertility for ten minutes.
My job isn't to become another voice telling you what you should do.
It's to help you hear yourself again.
You are so much more than a reproductive system.
Infertility may involve your body, but the experience doesn't stay neatly contained there.
It can affect your thoughts.
Your emotions.
Your relationships.
Your decisions.
Your sense of trust in yourself.
Your connection to your body.
Your ability to imagine the future.
Sometimes even your sense of who you are outside of trying to become a mother.
That's why Her Fertility takes a whole-woman approach.
Not because your thoughts caused your infertility.
Not because regulating your nervous system will make you pregnant.
Not because there is some hidden emotional block you need to clear.
But because you deserve care, too.
Your medical team can continue caring for your fertility.
I'll help care for the woman experiencing it.
I believe wanting to become a mother can matter enormously without becoming the only thing that gets to matter about you.
I believe you can desperately want this and still need moments when fertility doesn't get all of you.
I believe fear doesn't mean you're doing this wrong.
I believe you don't have to force yourself to be positive.
I believe you can feel hopeful and terrified at the same time.
I believe there are moments when you need more information and moments when you need permission to stop looking for it.
I believe your intuition and your medical care can exist in the same room.
I believe support should help you trust yourself more, not make you dependent on another expert.
And I believe infertility asks enough of you already.
Your support shouldn't become another thing you have to get right.
That's why I created The Sanctuary.
There are moments in infertility when you don't need another appointment.
You don't need another Google search.
You don't need another person telling you what you should do.
You need somewhere to go with the moment you're actually in.
The negative pregnancy test.
The two-week wait.
The night before your egg retrieval.
The appointment you can't stop replaying.
The decision you're terrified to make.
The pregnancy announcement you weren't prepared for.
The night when your mind simply will not stop.
The Sanctuary is an on-demand fertility support space created for those moments.
Open it.
Find what sounds like what you're experiencing.
Press play.
Let me meet you there.
Explore the SanctuaryStart wherever you are.
Not sure what you need?
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Come inside The Sanctuary.
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